How can people best respond to conflicts is a question commonly asked by people going through a difficult situation without any knowledge of how to respond properly to a certain conflict. The reality is: there is no solid answer to this question. It all depends on what your conflict is, and of course in what position you are. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, a conflict is an active disagreement, as between opposing opinions or needs[1], and according to the Merriam Webster Dictionary the definition of conflict is: a struggle for power[2] , so without a doubt, what people want as a result in a conflict is to have power over the problem, to have control. To be able to have control over a situation, first you need to have control over yourself. We can use as an example Stephen King´s novel Cujo written in 1981. In the book, Donna Trenton´s four year-old son dies and the reason for that is because Donna wasn´t able to grasp control of the situation. Her desperation didn´t allow her to think clearly and she never actually stopped and tried to figure out a solid plan, she just did everything as she went along. If Donna had been able to have control over herself and stop her desperation from clouding her mind, she might have been able to …show more content…
White makes a wish he thought would be innocent and would benefit the family without listening to what Sargeant-Major Morris warned him about the deadly monkey´s paw. Later after he makes the wish, he finds out the monkey´s paw indeed worked, and the thing he wished for costed the life of his beloved son. Mr. And Ms. White, terrifies of the monkey´s paw, decide not to try it ever again. But Ms. White, inconsolable with her only child´s death, decides to take a risk and wish for her son to come back to life. Later at night, someone knocks harshly on the door and Mr. White, full of terror, uses the very last wish to disappear whatever was outside the door
In both the film and story Herbert gets sent back into his grimey grave. In the story “The Monkey’s Paw” by W.W Jacobs stated, “...frantically breathed in his third and last wish. The knocking ceased suddenly, although the echos of it were still in the house. “WIth this quote the author is promptly generating suspense to the story for the reader. W.W Jacobs is also presenting to the reader that the Monkey’s Paw is dominant. Furthermore in the film “The Monkey’s Paw” directed by Ricky Lewis Jr. it displays the shadow of a male figure just on the outside of the door. Not only that, but the director also includes the sound of someone knocking at the door. Mrs. White who is yearning to see her son, proceeds to open the door, but is filled with sorrow when a bright light fills her eyes, and she no longer hears the knock. Ricky Lewis Jr. made the delicate decision to keep this incident the same as the original story of The Monkey’s Paw. This is because by Herbert getting wished back into his grave after being wished alive once again, shows the
In resolving conflict, ask the question, “How do we keep this from happening again?” The first thing is to be objective. This helps in managing conflict by keeping team members focused on the problem at hand (Huber, 2007)
You should try to handle conflict situations by remaining calm, ending the conflict before it escalates and remaining respectful of others. You should try to demonstrate active listening and discuss the situation in a calm and rational manner to try and resolve the conflict.
There are different conflict management styles, the dictatorial style, which insists that things are addressed their way and the low self -esteem style, which just allows others to have it their way. It is up to the individual to decide which way works for them. Additionally, the abdicator handles conflict by bowing out or walking away. This method is unhealthy because it robs the offended growth opportunity, which results from working through issues (Pegues, 2009, p.49). Another style is the collaborator, which often involves cooperation and pulling together to reach a common purpose and are emotionally balanced.
In “The Monkey’s Paw, ” Mr. and Mrs. White are mourning the loss of their son after burying him in the cemetery. One night Mr. White wakes to hear his wife crying and tries to coax her back to bed, but she keeps sobbing. Later in the night he is awakened again by his wife who has gotten an idea. She wants to use the second wish to raise her son from the dead. Mr. White does not want to wish his son alive again because he saw the way Herbert’s body looked after the accident. Mrs. White is on the brink of going mad and scares her husband. Mr. White reluctantly wishes for their son to be alive again. When nothing happens and they do not see their son and they both give up on the wish. However, after some time they hear a three knocks at the door. Mrs. White runs to the door as Mr. White grabs her arm and tries to stop her. Mrs. White breaks loose and grabs a chair to be able to reach the door bolt. Mr. White searches frantically for the paw, knowing he has to use the third wish before his wife open the door.
Some people may say that having control over someone or something can bring satisfaction and a sense of power. In the an article called “Gunman Kills Himself After Hostage Drama (584)” written by Charles P. Wallace and Tim Waters loss of control and the feeling of being helplessness makes Robert B. Rose commit a last act of asserting control over himself. In another article written by Martin E.P. Seligman called “On Learned Helplessness (585)” the feeling of loosing control of oneself is something that can cause someone to do things that they thought they would never do. What is hard to understand is that some of the things the someone may commit may implicate the lives of others in a negative way and the ending result could be death.
The best way to respond to conflict is to stay positive when you are dealing with conflict. There have been several different examples of how people have been able to overcome conflict by staying positive, such as Anne Frank, Martin Luther King Jr., and NASA’s Apollo 13 mission. They’re stories are great examples of how a positive attitude can help people solve problems and conflict
The story begins on a rainy evening with Mrs. White, Mr. White, and their son Herbert gathered in the parlor. Mrs. White is sitting in her chair knitting as she looks on as her husband is losing to Herbert in a game of chess. From the inside, Mr. White can hear the footsteps of someone walking along their walkway and onto their porch. Mr. White immediately gets up to answer the door and is happy to see his longtime friend Sergeant-major Morris. Mr. White introduces Sergeant-major Morris to his wife and son and invites him into the parlor where they could have drinks. After a couple of drinks, Sergeant-major Morris begins entertaining the family about his adventures in India, when Mr. White
Conflict is everywhere. People have different ways of dealing with it. Some people keep to themselves, and don’t speak up, but this is not the best way to respond to conflict. People can best respond to conflict by standing up in what they believe in, and having a positive attitude.
From the beginning of time, mankind has been trying to answer the question, “What is the best way to respond to conflict?” Even the first book of the Bible is filled with conflict. Cain handles conflict by murdering his brother. In the same book, Abraham handles conflict with God by negotiating. Ever since Genesis, conflicts both major and minor have been part of the human existence. Different kinds of conflicts require different types of reactions. Because of this, the best way to handle conflict is to assess the situation, control your emotions, and remain calm.
My profile provides a clear guide on how I deal with conflicts. In fact, I can be able to say that it is pretty accurate because it shows the different ways that I respond to conflicts in the workplace. As much as I might have the right information, when it comes to presenting the information or my thoughts on the matter, I tend to be more compromising. I would not like to be dominant in the conversation. Rather, I prefer to listen to what the other person has to say, as their option might be better than mine. However, when I am sure that my option is the best way forward, I tend to be more competitive. One of the negative effects of being so competitive in the workplace is that people might stop interacting with you or involve you in their
The text book describes conflict as “a process that begins when one party perceives another party has or is about to negatively affect something the first party cares about.” There are different views on dealing with conflict. There is the traditional view that seeks to eliminate any conflict and the interaction group that seek to use conflict as a stepping stone to greater things. Conflict can arise in any situation and, following the managed conflict view, it is not necessarily something to be push under the table but something to
Experts say, “If there is a conflict that you need to address, first think through what you want to accomplish, your approach, and how the other person may react. Too often we make things worse by blurting out the first words that come to mind or attacking the other person” (Decker). Often, a misunderstanding is the cause of conflict, but perspective can fix that. Listening is the biggest part of overcoming conflict and it can expand the solutions for conflict. When we listen to someone and hear their explanation we can see where they are coming from and we are able to understand both sides of the situation. For example, “An effective communication skill for successfully resolving conflicts is to address only one issue at a time and avoid introducing other topics... avoid attacking the other person or making accusations, which will only lead to distrust and defensiveness” (Switzer). Sometimes conflict is bigger than two people and it takes more effort. In these cases,
I believe that control is merely an illusion that we like to believe we have. In one of Dr. Caulder's sessions with Ethan, the guards are asked to leave and soon Dr. Caulder is held captive by Ethan and is demanded to write down what he has lost. Dr. Caulder answers “control” but Ethan says no and asks a few more times. Finally realizing what Ethan is talking about, Dr. Caulder writes down “illusion.”Ethan then explains how we only have the illusion of having
When conflict arises, I always try to look at the situation from the other person’s point of view while also trying to communicate my own perspective and concerns. A little empathy and mutual respect can go a long way, and I appreciate it greatly when others afford me the same consideration. Perhaps this is why I have had success over the years working with “difficult” people that others struggle to collaborate or communicate with. It is very rare for me to run across someone with whom I cannot find some sort of common ground to build at least a passable working relationship.