Why didn’t she leave? Why did she marry him? She must have done something to provoke him. She chose to have kids with him and to stay with him. These are the resounding questions and statements that one hears when discussing domestic violence. When video broke of NFL player Ray Rice, hitting and knocking out his then girlfriend Janay, those were the types of questions that erupted on social media. Instead the question should have been, “Why did he hit her?”, “Why didn’t he show any emotion or remorse?” “What is wrong with him?” This is known as victim blaming, and it is unfortunately all too prevalent in our society today. Domestic violence is a dirty little secret that no one wants to talk about, but until we do, this epidemic of victim …show more content…
The language we use needs to put the focus on the perpetrator and the acts they committed, not the other way around. The victim is just that, the victim. They in no way should be blamed for the actions of another and that needs to be the focus of the language when discussing the domestic violent actions. When the Ray Rice story broke, there was much discussion about what should be done by the NFL to punish him for his actions. He was ultimately suspended and cut from his team the Ravens. For the most part, perpetrators get a slap on the wrist. They may or may not be arrested. They may have to go to domestic violence classes. Law enforcement may or may not be empathetic towards the victim. Each state has its own set of consequences for perpetrators. In some states the victim can even be fired due to the domestic violence she or he is experiencing while the perpetrator remains unscathed. Perpetrators should be prosecuted. Perpetrators should have a consequence, not the victim. There should be a protocol followed by professional sports, law enforcement, prosecutors so that the seriousness of the offense is understood by all. A slap on the wrist is not enough to show the serious negative impacts domestic violence can have. And if our law enforcement and courts do not take it seriously, how can anyone else? This lack of consistency helps to foster the victim blaming mentality. Blaming
On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of some form of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. When judges come across domestic violence cases, they are often frowned upon. Because we live in a world there are huge double standards when it comes to domestic violence and our men are on the bad end of the deal. When a man commits domestic violence he is punished very harshly. But when a woman commits domestic violence she gets cheers, chuckles or is all too often ignored.
“Every year, in the United States there are over 3 million incidents of reported domestic violence. Every year, 4,000 victims of domestic violence are killed.” (Domestic Violence: Disturbing Facts about Domestic Violence). Domestic violence is a crime that is not just committed in the United States, but worldwide. This crime is committed every day, every hour, every minute, and every second. Anybody can be a victim or the abuser. This can happen to any child, man or woman. This is a horrific crime. Women are more likely to be the victim in domestic violence than men. “Forty-five percent of all violent attacks against female victims 12 years old and older by multiple
To illustrate contemporary victim blaming, a high profile case such as Ray and Janay Rice are an example of victim blaming in modern society. After the video of Ray Rice having punched out his fiancé many wondered after why she stayed and stood by him let alone still marry him. People formed low opinions of her for having stayed and did not stop to think of the psychological aspects of intimate partner violence they saw the assault and instantly seemed to believe that she should easily be able to leave and when she did not leave people became outraged that she could think to stay. Many opinioned that he had absolutely no right to punch her yet there were several who defended Ray Rice saying that she also held some blame in the altercation
According to data from the National Collision Against Domestic Violence, a woman in the United States is fatally shot by a spouse, ex-spouse, or other romantic partner on average every 14 hours. Despite these statistics, there are still many misconceptions about domestic violence both in California and across the United States.
Domestic Violence in America Domestic abuse in the United States is a large-scale and complex social and health problem. The family is perhaps the most violent group, with the home being the most violent American institution or setting today (Lay, 1994). Sadly enough, the majority of people who are murdered are not likely killed by a stranger during a hold-up or similar crime but are killed by someone they know. Not surprisingly, the Center for Disease Control and prevention has identified interpersonal violence as a major public health problem (Velson-Friedrich, 1994). Current estimates suggest that three to four million women are the victims of physical abuse by their intimate partners (Harris & Cook, 1994). According to the FBI, some
Have you ever considered that domestic violence could be right next door? Have you ever realized who can become a victim of domestic violence? Do you think you can be a target of domestic violence? Women are more vulnerable to domestic violence, but men can also be victims. One in four women has been a target of domestic violence and is 90-95% more likely to be a victim than men. (dcadv.org) Every single one of us knows or will know someone that is a victim. In order to raise awareness of domestic violence, it’s essential to apprehend who can be a victim and what to do when someone is being victimized. In other words, it’s important to understand who can be a victim and how to solve the problem.
Everyone is different with a unique set of values which shapes our beliefs and views that affect our personal behavior. Domestic violence can happen to anyone no matter the race, ethnicity, or social economic status. According to Babcock, Gree, and Robie (2004), domestic violence is a learned behavior and is defined by the North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence (2014) “Is when two people get into an intimate relationship and one person uses a pattern of coercion and control against the other person during the relationship and/or after the relationship has terminated. It often includes physical sexual, emotional, or economic abuse.” When defining the parties involved in domestic violence disputes, a batterer and/or victim can be male or female. For the purpose of research results we will discuss the batterer being male and the victim as female. The process of understanding domestic violence includes understanding human behavior in the social environment and examining battering from a batterer’s perspective.
Kimora’s mother shared, “Kimora asked me for a lighter and I said no, so she doesn’t have a way to light stuff on fire.”
There are top ten reasons or causes why teenagers kill themselves. The first reason is mental disorders. These disordered leaves teenagers feeling like they are left alone in the world. Thinking that they do not fit in with any group and consider themselves to be outcast. There are different kinds of abuses that can lead to mental disorders. Drug and alcohol abuse can take control of a life quick like. It can lead them feeling defeated by the addictions they are facing.
“Domestic violence and abuse includes physical abuse, threats, emotional abuse, sexual assault or stalking.”(Nursing standard, 2014) Domestic violence can happen to anyone. “According to the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE), each year at least 1.2 million women and 784,000 men experience domestic violence and abuse in England and Wales, with one in three women and nearly one in five men experiencing it at some point in their lives.”(Nursing standard,2014) Domestic violence can happen to anyone in any relationship whether it be a same-sex relationship or a heterosexual relationship. Domestic violence can happen at any time during a relationship. Some victims have stated that they would avoid asking too
Domestic Violence is a problem sweeping the nation. This problem can affect anyone from anywhere but is generally acting out upon children and adult women in abusive relationships. Domestic violence is emotionally and physically scarring for anyone involved, and as a result could take multiple intervention meetings to begin to understand the issue, alleviate the associated problems, and to assist the victim in getting back on his or her feet. The consequences of abuse include anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder and self-harm. Children may begin to act differently to their usual behavior - withdrawal is very common, as is self-harming (Khan, 2012). There are two ways that people can consider interventions for victims of
How is there people walking around knowing they committed a crime and got away with it? Hence, victims are apprehensive to call for help and that limits the criminals consequences. The fact that there are victims afraid to ask for help reveals how the level of support and security they feel. This is in contrast to feeling afraid to reach out to the authority. Victims are afraid of the outcome, feeling as if they're going to be affected by reaching out to the authority. Also, the injustice shows how hurt the victim can get just by their physical appearance. Sadly, some victims can be brutally hurt that they, unfortunately, lose their life to a crime. In brief, the victim feels that there isn't going to be a change if they reach out or not, that is when the victim is affected mentally. Doubting themselves and eventually blaming themselves for the tragedy. In order to monitor and prevent domestic violence, laws should be strict and
When we hear about domestic violence, we always assumed that it’s about women. Women are not always the victims, also men, children, elderly or mentally/physically disabled people as well.
at language ability, education, work experience and many other categories. It is a very discriminatory system, as it only allows for wealthy immigrants due to the requirements of English language and to have strong work and education credentials. So with the majority of South Asian immigrants that are coming to Canada coming as economic immigrants, most are coming from areas where they had a lot of power due to their social location and subject position. Although their social location does not change, their subject position changes drastically as they enter Canadian society. This is where we see poverty lead to domestic violence, which can be seen in the study for example, where people’s husbands who have previous experience as engineers
Domestic violence is not a label that can be boxed and defined. No, it is emotions of pain, fear, shock, confusion, and most surprising, love. It is difficult for many to comprehend if not brought up within a violent home; the true, passionate emotions that fall as a burden upon the victims, who often stay quiet. What brings the traumatic pain to domestic violence is that a person who is supposed to cherish and love another, ends up creating fear and panic when even mentioned. Domestic violence, which is indeed a form of abuse, is an issue that needs to be handled with delicate, yet able coherence. Within the society of America, the fight against domestic violence needs to be accepted instead of ignored. In doing so, there are many questions