Win Friends Part 3

communicating, negotiating, and interacting with other people in order to gain their cooperation brings out the best

3) You need to find a commonplace between you and your audience in order to begin trying to persuade the audience

Disagreements with other people is something that we will all encounter at various points in our lives. It is therefore important from an early age that we learn how to manage disagreements and move on successfully from them.

In Chapter 2 of Thank You for Arguing by Jay Heinrichs, he discuses how to distinguish the difference between an argument and a fight, and to decide what you want out of an argument. The key point of an argument is to win over the audience to your point of view. In order to win an argument, you need to persuade them. You want your opponent to be persuaded using subtle logical tactics not power and intimidation. Using power and intimidation is the characteristics of a fight. This is when one person takes out his aggression on another, which does not persuade them but initiate’s revenge or rejection. During a fight, the key objective is to win by attacking and belittling your opponent, paying no attention to getting them to change their mind.

Devise strategies for persuading your audience to accept your proposal and incorporate that persuasion in your presentation of the message.

Persuading an audience is not a simple feat to accomplish as some may think. In actuality, it forces people to look beyond themselves and their

After reading the article “For Argument’s Sake” by Deborah Tannen, it was clear that she was trying to prove that people now a day will argue just to argue. She uses her own experiences as examples. For example, she was on a talk show with her antagonist, who stated to her “When you get out there, I’m going to attack you. But don’t take it personally.” Even though her antagonist clearly stated he enjoyed her book, he was still going to argue with her over it, therefore arguing just to argue. Another example she uses is when a woman called that talk show. The woman told a story of her walking to an area that was a non-smoking area, where there she found a man smoking. She figured that instead of demanding him to stop smoking, she simply states

Great, so this old dead guy says there are 3 routes you can take to persuade someone? How do you use it? Copywriters all have their own take

Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People gives several proven methods and examples on how to succeed in the business world. The book's chapters are comprised of how to handle people, how to be a successful leader, and how to win people to your way of thinking. The preface provides several ideas and suggestions that will help the reader get the most out of the book. The author suggests that the reader keep an open mind, and also suggest some other reading materials that will also help.

Persuasiveness is a big factor when trying to get people to pick a side if they are torn about what to do. Having a persuasive quality can be very beneficial when it comes to a heated competition, or when wanting things to go a specific way. The author of “Animal Farm,” George Orwell, shows the use of persuasive characteristics within his novel. The Russian Revolution was a time period that consisted of an immense amount of competition between others, which brought out the persuasive side in people. Orwell develops a theme of “the power of words,” in his novel by using the characters Old Major and Squealer to show that persuasive words can be convincing enough to make someone do or believe something, especially if the topic is explained in

How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936) by Dale Carnegie has served as a manual for people of all ages to learn the art of communicating effectively with others. The novel incorporates evidence from psychologists as well as short narratives in order to relay the multitude of themes and ideas found in the book. Throughout his work, Carnegie’s themes prove to be omniscient in three

In part one of the book, Carnegie included three principles on how to handle people. Of these, two principles are most important when handling people. The first principle is to give honest and sincere appreciation. The deepest urge for human beings is the desire to be important and be appreciated. With true words of appreciation,

Many people,” think the sole point of an argument is to humiliate you or get you to admit defeat” (heinrichs 19). however, the true purpose of an argument is to achieve your goals not to actually claim victory just to say that you ‘won’. Many people have trouble arguing in the direct sense because of this skewed image of what the true purpose of arguing actually is. These people are the ones who go for getting there adversary to admit defeat rather than pursue their own original goals and agenda. Before starting an argument recognise what you want to get out of it and keep the argument on track with that agenda and don't let it stray to wanting to humilate your

Arguing with some one insults their intelligence and will get you no where. People do not think they are right, they know they are right. A crucial element in avoiding a argument is to offer your opinion calmly and also admit that you yourself could be wrong. This makes the other person feel less threatened and his or her pride is not jeopardized. Approach the issue together, examine all the facts; this allows for the other persons to take the easy way out in admitting that they might be wrong. The third principle in this section states, if you are wrong admit it quickly and empathically. People will respect you if you can admit it when you are wrong. It is also important to ridicule yourself and judge yourself harshly, especially around other people. People will respond warmly and with encouragement. By admitting yourself wrong you can turn a potentially harsh lecture into a speech of praise. Principle four establishes that if you absolutely can not avoid an argument, then try to approach it in a friendly way. Again this makes the others feel less threatened and they are more willing to change their way of thinking. It is like the old saying, "you catch more bees with honey than with vinegar." Principle five determines the importance of establishing a positive attitude from the start. Get the person to say yes as fast as you can. Ask questions that will lead to "yes" answers and perhaps even more importantly ask questions that lead

The persuasion scenario our group choose to observe is the events that happen in United States of America in 19th century. It’s the President Abraham Lincoln famous Gettysburg address. One of the main points for Lincoln when he giving this speech is to persuade both union and confederate (two different sides during the civil war) citizens to come join together to create the new equal and justice United States. This persuasion speech made me known why many people saw him as the great man. He did not antagonize, nor did he show disrespect to the dead, even those who fought for the Confederacy (who is oppose to Lincoln administration). He treated them all as people of one country, and honored them all equally. Lincoln’s respect for every man