Pin pointing a specific parenting style that I was raised by was quite difficult. I believe that most parents use different styles throughout the raising of their children. Of course, I do understand that this paper is to select the dominate style of parenting used for my upbringing, but I was raised in two different households. Each household had its own dominate parenting style, however most of my life I was raised by my mother, so I’ll focus on her parenting style. As I stated above, I believe parents use almost all the parenting styles in dealing with different situations. My mother was no exception to this. She could go from authoritarian to permissive without even blinking an eye, which is why I was difficult for me to select a …show more content…
Overall, my mother was distant and didn’t expect much from my siblings and me. An example of this parenting style would be when I found out I had received a scholarship from the Heartland Foundation. When my mother found out she went on multiple social media sites to tell everyone the good news, but she did not contact me at all. I ended up asking her to be my plus one to the scholarship dinner; I guess I’m still stuck in the loop of trying to make her proud. On the way to the dinner the car was filled with silence. No congratulations. No “I’m proud of you” moments. Just heavy silence. At the dinner we spoke maybe twenty words to each other. Most of these words were commenting on how nice the Bone Student Center looked and how delicious the meal was. When the dinner ended, my mother drove me back home and said goodbye. No “I love you”. Nothing but goodbye. Another example of my mother’s disengagement would be when my sister was suspended multiple times and almost expelled. My sister tried to find attention from other people since she was receiving none at home. Her way of gaining this attention was getting into fights, and sadly, it worked. It took three incidents to gain the attention of my mother, and this only gained her attention because she received three different tickets for the fighting from the police
The psychologist Diana Baumrind identified three categories of parenting styles and linked them to children’s behaviors. “Authoritative” parents is one example, parents that have strong control when necessary, but they explain why and allow them to have their own opinion.
The four primary parenting styles are Authoritarian, Permissive, Authoritative, and Uninvolved parenting styles. Authoritarian parents are very controlling and strict with their children. They expect obedience form their children and don’t tolerate expressions of disagreement. In contrast, Permissive parents are more relaxed and provide inconsistent feedback. They require little of their children and don’t see themselves as responsible for their children’s behavior. They also don’t set limits or control over their children. Authoritative parents are firm and set clear and consistent limits for their children. While they tend to be strict they show love and emotional support for them as well. These parents tend to reason with their child as to why they should behave a certain way. These parenting styles also encourage the child to be independent. The fourth parenting style is uninvolved parenting style. These parents show interest in their children and display indifferent or rejecting behavior towards them. They detach emotionally and only see themselves as providers of materials goods such as shelter, food, and clothing.
Psychologists have always debated the role of parenting styles and their influence on the development of children. Parenting styles can be defined as the psychological construct representing the basic strategies that parent use in raising their child (Matsumoto, Juang 2013 p.69). Parenting styles encompass two major aspects of parting those being parental responsiveness and paternal demanding. Paternal responsiveness is essentially the extent at which a parent fosters individuality, self-regulation, and self-assertion. While paternal demanding is the measure of which the parent makes the child
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well
Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and
Before having kids, everyone has an idealistic fantasy of what type of parent they are going to be. Will they be a Mary Poppins or a Mommy Dearest? These two women parented in very different but similar ways. Mary Poppins used an authoritative approach to parenting whilst Mommy Dearest used an authoritarian approach. Authoritative and authoritarian parenting styles are the most widely used styles in modern day parenting, with authoritative parenting being the one with the most positive results in terms of child development. They are similar in what parents expect from their children but differ in the way that parents respond to their children’s needs. The effects of the chosen parenting style can be seen in the way that a child feels about themselves and how they interact with the outside world.
My mother is someone I always look up to; she has put in great effort to be such an inspiring person. She has worked twenty-seven years as a committed dental hygienist, and has volunteered as a Cub Scout, Girl Scout, and 4-H leader for over twenty-five years. I have followed in her footsteps, dedicating myself to 4-H, being an active member for nine years and an officer for five. My mom has taught me so much and is one of my best friends, but
Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the
Parenting style can be diverse from country to country, but even across country they can be surprisingly similar. As Being from Greece I would like to compare the American parenting style to the Greek parenting style. An interview of my roommate was conducted which showed that her parents were never strict with her and she never had a curfew. Her parents let her make her own decisions. This is how things work in my family as well. My parents let me make my own decisions and take responsibility for any consequences. Apart from that she argued that in her family the mother is in charge of the house and the children’s care whereas the father is less involved. So things are not as different between our families. On the contrary they are rather similar. However, whether parenting styles are pretty much the same it is also very important how a specific parenting behavior takes place. If it takes place under harsh and non-friendly conditions then the child will never know how to act in a good way around people and it will never have the manners that its parents would wanted it to.
Parents will treat their children the way they see fit. In the authoritarian parenting style, there is no room for freedom. In permissive parenting, there can be more freedom than the children know what to do with. Authoritative parenting combines the gist of both of the other styles and allows both freedom and structure. Both authoritarian and permissive styles have components that authoritarian parents see as productive methods if used properly.
Parenting styles have been widely defined by Baumrind into three categories, authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Parenting styles can be defined as a pattern of attitudes in how parents choose to express and communicate with their children. These styles are categorized based on the level of nurturance, parental control and level of responsiveness (Dwairy, 2004). Authoritative style exhibits high levels of demand, responsiveness and nurturance; authoritarian style exhibits high levels of demand but low levels of responsiveness, permissive style exhibits low levels of demand but high in responsiveness and nurturance (Dwairy, 2004). These parenting styles have been proposed to have a significant impact on a child’s
In my recent psychology class we studied parenting styles. They are grouped into three different categories; authoritarian, authoritative, and overly permissive. This gave me insight into a couple of different programs I’ve watched on television.Authoritarian parents are parents that set strict rules to keep order and they usually do this without much expression of warmth and affection. “They demand obedience to authority.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2010, p. 91) When the child questions the parent, "Because I said so," is often the response. Parents tend to focus on bad behavior, and not positive behavior, and children are scolded or punished for not after the rules. Authoritative parents help their children learn to be responsible for
My mom used the authoritative parenting style. She was warm and accepting. She was very involved in my activities. She would come to all my school events and plays. My
with a clear set of rules which have to be followed without question or reason, while